It's More Than Casseroles and Conferences

I have lots of things I could blog about.  But, as I was driving my mother and myself to dinner tonight, she told me that my thoughts on "Conferences and Casseroles" would make a good blog title.  

Most of you know that I am a proud member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  As a woman of this church, I am also a member of the largest women's organization in the world: the Relief Society.  Established by the Prophet Joseph Smith in March 1842, the organization still stands strong today.  When instituted, Joseph Smith stated that this organization was meant "for the exercise of all benevolent purposes."  

Having grown up in the Church, I distinctly remember Daddy coming home early once a week to relieve my mother of her "motherly duties" so she could attend a weekly gathering of the sisters in the Relief Society.  Sometimes my father would even take my sister and me to get root beer floats at Friendly's, and that made being without Mom alright for a short while.  She would usually come home with some handicraft or new recipe to try out on us.  

If someone had asked me the first word that came to mind when they said "Relief Society" a few years back, I would have immediately blurted out the association, "casseroles."  To many young women in the Church, Relief Society is an old ladies' club that delivers casseroles to widows and new moms.  But oh how wrong they are!  It's far more than the casseroles and women's conferences!  And yet, it took me four years of being in the Relief Society to finally catch the vision.  

I look at my life, especially the past 5 years, and sometimes have feelings of dismay and despair because all my friends are now married and most of them are beginning families.  I've always wanted to be married.  I thought I was ready when I was 19!  I grew up like many little girls playing with Barbies, but my Barbies always ended up marrying Ken in my pretend LDS temple.  I have always wanted to be a wife and mother.  My heart aches (and somedays even breaks) with each passing day that puts me at, what feels like, a farther distance from being sealed in the Temple to a worthy Priesthood holder.  I will now be older than all my female family members when they got married (my mom, sister, aunts, grandmothers, and cousins).  

BUT...

I do have one advantage over all of them:  I am able to focus on becoming me.  Just me.  Not a wife nor a mother (though those are my heart's strongest desires).  It is distressing at times, but I know that I have come so much farther than I could have if I was in a family ward.  Being in the young single adults' ward has allowed me to realize the full purpose of Relief Society: to become a true disciple of Jesus Christ.  It's not about the age-old traditions of baking bread and delivering casseroles.  It's not even about book clubs or conferences.  It's about learning to love who we are, growing as daughters of God.  

The Church's website states, "In the first meeting of the Relief Society, Sister Emma Smith [the first Relief Society president] said, 'We are going to do something extraordinary.' Relief Society is filled with examples of ordinary women who have accomplished extraordinary things as they exercise faith in Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ."  I know this.  I have come into contact with women who have so many insecurities and heart aches, but the world would never know what they are struggling with, as they are inspiring and productive leaders and examples.  I love every sister with whom I have come in contact and they have shown me the way to become a better disciple of Jesus Christ.  They have taught me true charity.  They have taught me how to love and be loved.  They have shown me how to live a virtuous and exemplary life.

We are often told as daughters of a King to "live up to our privilege."  I have often struggled with listening to the demons in my head and "settling" for something less than what I deserve.  Please, do not do this!  A loving Heavenly Father wants us to be happy, so much so that He sent His Son to suffer every imperfect thing we must suffer through, feel, and experience.  The concept of living up to our potential is simple, but it is never easy.  We are cast to and fro in today's corrupt world, even among those who we think are friends and our allies (or in my case someone who I thought would be my future spouse), being told we are not good enough, worthy of love, or beautiful.  This is not true.  We truly do have a divine potential to live up to.  Never give up.  Believe that there is something greater waiting for you, know that your time will come.  

The Blessings of Revelation, Part 2

I could write a whole post on all the wonderful packets of spiritual inspiration I received from the talks of the afternoon session of General Conference today.  However, I feel the need to focus on just one talk:  Elder Holland's inspired counsel.  

Mental health and mental illness are topics that are not discussed openly in the Church.  In fact, there are many in the Church who are misinformed and lacking in education regarding these topics.  In addition, as far as I know, there has never been a talk given in General Conference about mental illness.  As many of you know, I was diagnosed with anorexia at age 12 and major depressive disorder (MDD as Elder Holland referred to it) shortly thereafter.  I was silent for decades about my struggles, but remembered that when in the midst of all of it, what I wanted most was someone who had been through it to give me hope.  Elder Holland provided the world today with that hope.  Though he did mention that he struggled with a bout of depression, that was not the ultimate source of hope he offered.  The hope he referred to comes from our Savior Jesus Christ who suffered everything so that we can have the ability to rise above everything.  Elder Holland expressly stated that there is much to cherish and look forward to in this life.  Life is precious and we should look forward to the day when we will be made whole and perfect.  He said, "Believe in miracles."  

My life is a miracle.  

I have endured many trials surrounding my depression and eating disorder, some surrounding those who simply do not understand the challenges, and blessings (for there are many blessings) that come with mental health problems.  However, I testify to you that the one thing that got me through those dark and hopeless decades, was looking to the ceramic model of the Salt Lake Temple I had in my room every morning as I awoke.  The Book of Mormon tells us to, "Look to God and live."  Certainly I looked to the House of the Lord, and literally lived.  I look forward to the day when I can enter His Holy House and reap the blessings of living with my "eye single to the glory of God."

Fellow bloggers, friends, family: this talk was an answer to my fervent prayers.  It was my personal epistle.  I never knew that my prayers could be answered so directly in General Conference. 

To those who doubt that life with depression or any other mental illness can be enjoyable or worth living, take this counsel given by Jeffrey R. Holland:

"Above all, never lose faith in your Father in Heaven, who loves you more than you can comprehend."

Life is worth living, even if just for the beautiful tulips that peek through the harsh winter snow, or for the crisp leaves that begin to change one-by-one rather than all at once.  Maybe joy comes from the cool sea breeze coming from the ocean, or the beautiful sunsets that come on late summer days.  I know that God's creations were created to bring us happiness and hope.  They were made just for us.  

Elder Holland went on to say not to place judgment on those struggling, rather to show them kindness, love, and hope.  I would add that we who suffer need to do those things for ourselves as well.  Have faith and take heart that you are not alone.  You are loved.

Take care, my loved ones.  And, never doubt the power of prayers, both uttered and in our hearts.  Heavenly Father knows us.  He loves us.  He blesses us.  He yearns for our happiness.

May God bless you in all your righteous endeavors.

The Blessings of Revelation, Part 1

I don't think I have ever been as excited as I am today to watch the General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  There are times in our lives when we are forced to our knees in desperation.  I certainly have experienced those times.  However, I recognize how blessed I am to kneel before our Father, through my own desire, to talk to Him at any moment.  One of the greatest blessings of the Restored Gospel in these Latter days is that of revelation, both personal and church wide.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, an apostle of Christ's church, stated the following:

"If we [the General Authorities of the Church] teach by the Spirit and you listen by the Spirit, some one of us will touch on your circumstance, sending a personal prophetic epistle just to you."

I love the idea of receiving an epistle from the Lord, through the mouth of His servants.  Can you imagine sitting at the feet of the Savior, or maybe Paul or Peter, or even Isaiah or Abraham, to hear the messages they offered?  The words pronounced by our living prophets and apostles today are just the same.  The authority that was on the earth during the times of the Bible has been restored!

I have knelt in prayer so that I can receive instruction, guidance, and answers to some of my biggest obstacles, challenges, and questions at this point in my life during this Conference.  I made sure to clear my schedule in order to watch both days' sessions.  This morning I debated whether or not I should attend a required rehearsal for the Nutcracker performance to which I am committed.  I decided to drive home after teaching my pre-ballet class instead.  I made it home just in time to hear Elder Robert D. Hales' talk on the importance of preparing for, listening to, and, afterwards studying, the talks and testimonies given during General Conference.  What a personalized confirmation that I made the right decision!  

I later heard Elder Dube speak to my heart when he said, "Faith always looks forward." I cannot move forward if I keep looking back, or if I stall my progression.  Faith looks forward, never back.

Sister Stephens asked with authority, if we know our impact and divine nature as daughters, sons, mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, and friends?  We must live worthy of those callings and responsibilities we are given as spiritual children of our Heavenly Father.  

President Uchtodrf counseled us to, "Doubt our doubts before doubting our faith."  Hold on to what has been revealed to us in days past.

I look forward to listening to the coming 6 hours of Conference.  Will you join me?  Look for byutv on your channel guide, or stream it on lds.org.

It is quite easy to day dream (or dose off) during 8+ hours of talks.  What do you do to stay focused?  Over the past 4 years, only during Conference, I've slowly worked on embroidering patches for a quilt:

I'm still working on the bottom two, and I have 10 more to go!  Hopefully I make more progress this Conference!

Best wishes,
Your Conference Buddy

To Be Continued....